As a healthy 56 year old you can imagine the shock and sadness that comes with that kind of diagnosis, I added anxiety on top of anxiety during a time that should of been spent on accepting and dealing with my diagnosis this is what I have learned Personally.
Felt ashamed to talk about my diagnosis always felt people were starring at me, My spouse again never asked about my thoughts or feelings it was just his way of dealing with it, not for a minute did I think he didn't care it was just his way of dealing with it which made me feel even more that I had to stay the strong one, Same with my 3 daughters, instead of focusing on what I was feeling or what it was I truly needed they went back and forth about who I favored or who went with me to Dr appointment's , yes Tina was the one who was able to fit me into her schedule, most of the time, Maria my oldest out of consideration did not want to burden her for she has a full plate work,school, 5 children a Husband and a home to take of how would I or could of expected anymore then maybe just a phone call or a visit, and then there is my youngest Carla who just had a new baby 3 weeks after my diagnosis and a 2 year as well as a 7 year, again would never burden her with so much on her plate, so with this said, who was and wasn't involved in other things being planned by so my amazing people some of which I know and some of which I do not know....all created so much friction not only was it hurtful it was so very stressful, So with that I would just like to say that I do not expect anything from Daughters except the love and the support that I need during this Journey.....and Yes even though I may love you all in different ways I do love you with all my heart.
Sellersville, PA